Beloved wife of the late Ross, passed away peacefully on Sunday, January 5, 2025, surrounded by family at the FJ Davey Home at the age of 85.
Born in the Sault on August 25, 1939, to Wesley and Margaret Willoughby, Marlene was one of five siblings: the late Joan Helf, Harvey Willoughby (late Margie), Larry Willoughby (Alice), and Brenda Wierzbicki (late Bob). She often reminisced about playing with neighbourhood kids on North Street before the family moved to a farm on Second Line.
Known for her fiery red hair and energetic spirit, Marlene was adventurous, mischievous, and defiant in the best way. Marlene married her teenage sweetheart Ross, and together they shared a life full of dances, picnics, and trips to Lake Superior before marrying and raising a family.
Ross and Marlene eventually bought their cherished camp at Jones Landing, where they spent summers creating incredible memories. Marlene loved hearing the laughter of children having fun. As the camp quieted over the years, Marlene found new ways to keep herself busy, whether it was gardening or kayaking on Lake Superior (often with a dog on her lap). Her summer “pilgrimage” to the Canadian Carver for maple walnut ice cream was a beloved tradition
In the early 60s, Ross and Marlene proudly built their family home and welcomed a family of their own. First with Stephen (Nora), then Leslie (Chris), Tammy (Kevin), Ronald, and eventually Matthew. For years, Ross and Marlene also provided love, comfort and a home for many foster children in the community. With many children in the home, Marlene ran the Lay household (and camp) like a ship and was lovingly referred to as “Marlene’s Boot Camp.”
Marlene’s family grew to include grandchildren Andrew (Kylie), Kyra (Max), Luke, and Abigail. Then great grandchildren, Brady, Casper, Rowen, Milaya, and Gabriel. Marlene shared a special bond with her cousin Alison Dutkiewicz (Dane) and her children, Dana and David. She stayed close to many friends and family whom she loved dearly, including her cousin, the late Pat Verdoni.
It would be hard to talk about Marlene without mentioning her beloved dogs who quickly became part of the active family. For years, she and her dogs brightened the lives of residents in long-term care homes, with Chelsea even learning to wave her paw in greeting at the residents.
A devoted member of Holy Trinity Church, Marlene sang in the choir, taught Sunday school, and sat on committees. She put her faith into practice by welcoming anyone who was alone during the holidays to the family dinner. You never knew who was going to be there. The family home was also a place of refuge for countless friends and family. Marlene believed deeply in the power of prayer and found comfort in knowing she’d be reunited with her loved ones when the time came.
Marlene was incredibly social and could strike up a conversation anywhere. A trip to the mall was an experience for anyone who went along with her. Marlene would often randomly tap someone on the shoulder and begin a long conversation (much to the dismay of her shopping partner).
Marlene ran a daycare out of the home. There were so many children who came in and out of that household, it was sometimes hard to know who lived there and who was being babysat. For many children in the Sault, “Noni” was just part of their extended family. There was nothing Marlene loved more than when one of those kids returned as adults to visit her.
She also loved writing and meticulously documented her life in photo albums and journals, ensuring her memories lived on. Marlene's artistic spirit shone brightly in her love for creative activities such as painting, ceramics, and crafts. She loved Christmas and delighted in painting festive scenes on the front window of the family home.
Known for her colourful and quirky outfits, Marlene embraced her unique style and wasn’t scared to wear mismatched clothes and bright hats that reflected her vibrant personality. Sometimes her clothing clashed with itself and with her bright red hair, but she never cared and would proudly wear the outfit just the same. You could always see her coming from a mile away.
Marlene wasn’t shy, had a wicked sense of humour, and never simply blended into a crowd. You always knew she was there. When she was at an event, she would talk, laugh, clap and sing and cheer whenever she could. In Marlene’s honour, she would want you to sing, laugh, dance, paint, wear a funny hat and enjoy life to the fullest. If you’re not quite sure exactly what to do in her honour, just let out a big, loud “Woohoo” (especially if people are around you). She would love that.
Marlene loved Ross. She loved her children. She loved her camp. She loved a good time. It is safe to say that she loved life, and it showed.
In keeping with Marlene’s wishes, a small come-and-go will be held on Saturday, January 11, 2025 from 2:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. at the Trinity Centre at 31 Old Garden River Rd. There will be a very short service at 2:30 p.m. Parking can be accessed from either Old Garden River Rd. or Northern Ave. Note: the signs will say “tenant parking” but you can park there. If that lot is full, the Sault College “A North” lot off Northern Ave. can be used. Memorial donations can be made to the FJ Davey Home or the Alzheimer Society of Sault Ste. Marie & Algoma District would be appreciated by the family. Arrangements entrusted to Northwood Funeral Home Cremation and Reception Centre (942 Great Northern Rd, 705-945-7758). www.northwoodfuneral.com